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Wendy’s 10 Tips for Life Transitions

Whether it’s a break-up, a death, the end/beginning of a job, or something else, let’s face it: Life transitions are tough. Even the “good” life transitions — like a new baby, a house remodel, or getting the job you always dreamed of — can lead to anxiety, stress and the feeling that you can’t quite get your sea legs.

That being said, here are some things you can do to take care of yourself during these times of transitions. Try one or two — or all ten — and see how it feels!


1. GET GOOD SLEEP

Everyone — including you — needs quality sleep to be at their best.

2. SCHEDULE IN FUN

Stress can make you feel like you “should” do this or that. While that may be true, don’t forget to have fun. What’s fun for you? Figure it out, and get it on your calendar at least once per week.

3. WALK YOUR DOGS

Don’t have a dog? Then I’m referring to your feet! It’s easy, it’s free and the benefits are countless. Take a walk!

4. SHOOT FOR NEUTRAL

In times of transition it’s to be expected that your mood will see-saw — that’s okay. It’s a lot to ask yourself to “appreciate this time” or “feel better by” some time frame. When you feel low, allow yourself to have those feelings and do things that you know won’t make you feel worse. That’s shooting for neutral.

5. “GOLD STAR” YOURSELF

Give yourself credit for each “baby step” you take, and use literal gold star stickers if you want! They’re super cheap!

6. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH CHEERLEADERS

Be careful to avoid folks who “take” more than “give,” if possible (you may live with some, which is another story!). Just for now, allow yourself plenty of time to be around supportive, encouraging people who love you and don’t need anything from you at the moment.

7. GIVE YOURSELF STRUCTURE

Set clear, attainable goals you know you can reach, and schedule your days clearly to include those goals. They can be tiny — the idea is to achieve them and let yourself feel the success of making progress!

8. LIMIT SCREEN TIME

Not just for kids! It’s best for everyone to limit their time in front of computers, smart phones and televisions. Lower levels of well-being and negative impacts to health are connected to screen time, so give yourself a limit per day and stick to it.

9. LAUGH

Endorphins, amiright? But seriously, folks, there is a lot of research showing the positive effects of a belly laugh, so hang out with your funniest friend, listen to a hilarious podcast or watch your favorite comedy to get giggling.

10. REMIND YOURSELF EVERY DAY HOW BRAVE YOU ARE

Sometimes we choose transition and sometimes it chooses us. No matter what, change is hard, and it takes courage. Give yourself credit for that.


April 11, 2015